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Thursday, May 30, 2013

New Articles on Seekyt, Squidoo, and Bubblews

For those who have been regularly visiting my blog and wondering why I have not been updating it recently, I would like to tell you that I have been busy researching and writing on other websites. On Seekyt, I have written the following articles: Fourteen Products You Need to Make Cloth Diapering a Success, The Types of Bio-Degradable, Compostable Diapers Which are Available, Types of Eco-Friendly Cloth Diapers and The Benefits of Cloth Diapers and How to Clean Them.

The articles that I have written on Squidoo are Pink Sand Beaches in Bermuda and Pink Sand Beaches on Harbor Island in the Bahamas; How to Make Jamaican Ginger Beer in Two Styles ; and How to Make Jamaican Hot Chocolate (Recipe 1 and Recipe 2).

I have written an article entitled, How to Survive an Avalanche on Bubblews. Enjoy!

Thursday, May 16, 2013

20 Things that will Disappear from the Workplace by 2020

 The following link talks about what will disappear from the general workplace by 2020. Times are "a changing," and it's best to adapt to these changes than to fall behind.

20 Things that will Disappear from the Workplace by 2020

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Stressed? Take time to rise above it

This link gives you some practical tips on how to rise above stress, and focus on "finding your mission in life, rather than a career." Enjoy!

Stressed? Take time to rise above it

Six Steps to Stop Self-Sabotage Now

Six Steps To Stop Self-Sabotage Now

Six Steps To Stop Self-Sabotage Now

Author: Eve Delunas

Six Steps To Stop Self-Sabotage Now
Copyright � 2005 Eve Delunas, Ph.D.
Inner Vision Resources

Are you a captive of your past? Or have you released the past
and liberated yourself from its hold on you? When you refuse
to allow your history to imprison you, you choose a path of
self-determination. Letting go of the past is your personal
"declaration of independence" from anything in your earlier
years that could limit your creative potential or prevent you
from living your best life.

How can you tell if past events are still having a negative
effect on you today? Here are three signs to look for:

1. Certain situations trigger extreme, out-of-control emotional
reactions. It feels as if you go on "auto-pilot" and have
little or no control over the way you feel or behave once
certain internal buttons have been pushed. For example, Marta
trembles with fear at the thought of asserting herself with
her boss, who overburdens Marta with an excessive workload.
Joe goes into a rage when he believes he is being accused of
making an error, however insignificant. Ben is consumed with
jealousy when he catches his girlfriend smiling at a stranger.

2. All of the logical solutions and practical approaches to
changing your out-of-control reactions have failed. Your head
may say "this is ridiculous" but you can't stop yourself from
over-reacting with anger, sadness, fear, shame, guilt, or
jealousy to a situation that just doesn't merit that kind of
emotional energy.

3. You keep making the same unhealthy choices over and over
again. Although you may vow that you are going to set a new
course, your default mode is set on self-destruct. You can't
seem to keep yourself from repeating the same mistakes-even
though you know better. Elizabeth continues to have
relationships with married men, despite of years of heartache
from other married lovers. Mark lies to his manager and
coworkers, although that behavior led to Mark's dismissal
from his last two jobs.

What can you do if you are under the negative spell of your past?
Here are some steps you can take which will neutralize the effect
that the past has on you:

1. Reclaim your power by refusing to think of yourself as a
victim. This does not mean you deny the bad things that have
happened to you. Rather, it means you embrace your wholeness
rather than your brokenness. Everything you have lived has
strengthened your psychological immune system. Recognize your
capacity to thrive in spite of the hardships that have come
your way, and watch your life begin to mirror your more
empowered sense of Self.

2. Retire your need to blame anyone-including your self-for
your present unhappiness. Blame only weighs you down with
unnecessary baggage that inhibits you from moving forward.
Release blame and feel yourself lighten up.

3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Everybody makes
them-that's how we learn. Stop berating yourself with your
so-called failures, and use that extra energy to create the
life you desire today.

4. Make peace with your past. If certain unpleasant memories
still hold a high degree of emotional charge, let a qualified
therapist assist you in healing those wounds to loosen the
psychological hold those traumatic episodes have on you.

5. Change the thoughts you entertain about yourself. Monitor
your mental landscape to avoid habitual, self-limiting ways
of thinking. When you catch yourself engaging in old thought
patterns like, "I don't deserve to be happy" or "I'm not good
enough," deliberately choose new thoughts that feel better to

6. Stop using your past as a point of comparison to your present
and future. No matter what you have lived before, today can
be different. Instead of focusing on how your life has been,
place your attention on how you want your life to be. Keep
your eye on the road ahead rather than the one behind you,
and watch your life take you to the places you have dreamed
of going!

As you let go of your past, you free yourself to live the life
you truly desire. Step into the Now, and discover the unlimited
potential for joy that awaits you there.

Eve Delunas, Ph.D., psychotherapist, author, speaker, trainer
Offers proven strategies to help you rise above your limitations
and soar. Breaking the Spell of the Past--Book and Guided
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Solutions for Shyness

Solutions For Shyness

Solutions For Shyness

Author: Royane Real
Most people experience some degree of shyness from time to time in certain situations. In fact, only about 7% of the population claims that they never feel shy. For the rest of us, shyness can range from being an occasional, minor inconvenience, to being a major problem.

Some people however, are afflicted with a degree of shyness so severe that it is almost disabling. This type of acute shyness is not only very painful to experience, but it can have devastating effects on a person's social life, happiness, and career.

Severe shyness is a complex mix of biology, upbringing, traumatic experiences, and negative self-talk. Severe shyness can co-exist with other debilitating psychological conditions such as low self-esteem, perfectionism, depression and anxiety.

Extreme shyness can take many forms, and can show up differently in different people. Some very shy people have problems being in large gatherings, yet feel comfortable in small groups. Some shy people only feel acute discomfort with persons they have just met, while others are never comfortable around people, even those they have known a long time.

Psychiatrists and psychologists use the term "social anxiety disorder" to describe extremely debilitating shyness. There isn't complete agreement about whether severe, disabling social anxiety disorder is simply a more severe type of shyness, or whether it is another type of disorder altogether.

Some very shy people are able to overcome their fears by learning social skills and practicing them frequently in social situations. Many also find it useful to gain some measure of control over their uncomfortable physical reactions such as sweating and trembling, by using special relaxation techniques and bio-feedback training.

Many very shy people deal with their extreme anxiety by simply avoiding any social situations that might trigger their discomfort. This may mean turning down invitations to parties and other social events, crossing the street in order to avoid running into someone they know, and even turning down promotions at work.

Although avoiding the feared situation may seem to the shy person like the perfect solution, it actually makes the problem worse in the long run. Every time a shy person chooses to avoid social interaction, he reinforces in his mind how much he fears dealing with other people. By choosing the short-term benefit of avoiding his anxious feelings, he reinforces the power that his fear holds over him

Psychologists who specialize in the treatment of shyness disorders have discovered that avoiding social situations can actually make the problem worse. Many psychologists who treat people afflicted by shyness recommend a program of repeated and gradually increasing exposure to the feared situation, combined with helping the client learn new ways of thinking.

Various psychological therapies have been used to treat extreme shyness, most of them with limited success. The most successful approaches use some variation of cognitive therapy, or behavioral therapy, or both of these, combined with graduated and increasing exposure to the feared situation.

In cognitive therapy, the patient is taught to notice the thoughts he is thinking while he is in the feared situation. The client learns to challenge his thoughts to see if they fit reality. If these thoughts do not match the reality, the client is taught to substitute more realistic thoughts in their place.

Behavioral therapy aims to change the client's behavior using a program of positive reinforcement of the desired behavior, and negative reinforcement of the undesired behavior.

Both cognitive therapy and behavior therapy focus on teaching the client to deal with situations and symptoms in the present. Neither form of therapy delves into situations in the client's distant past. Those forms of psychotherapy that attempt to deal with shyness by delving into the client's past history have not been shown to be effective. in cognitive therapy techniques.

There are many books that can teach the reader to effectively use cognitive therapy techniques for both depression and loneliness. If your case is not particularly severe, you can often learn enough from reading a book and doing the recommended exercises to greatly relieve your symptoms of shyness or depression. Dr. David Burns, one of the pioneers in bringing cognitive therapy to a wider audience, has written several very useful books and workbooks for the general public, including "Intimate Connections" and "Feeling Good--the New Mood Therapy."

In the past decade, researchers have discovered that some anti-depressant medications, particularly the so-called SSRI's (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors), can also be very helpful in the treatment of extreme shyness. One of these SSRI drugs, Paxil, was the first to receive American F.D.A. approval as an effective treatment for social anxiety. In fact, ads for Paxil as a treatment for social anxiety have been marketed directly to the public, not just to doctors. Other anti-depressant drugs in the SSRI group are also believed to help in reliving social anxiety.

Does drug treatment for shyness really work? Some very socially anxious people have tried everything that regular psychotherapy has to offer, including cognitive therapy, yet they still suffer debilitating symptoms of shyness until they try SSRI drugs. In some cases, the improvement in sociability after taking SSRI drugs can be swift and profound. This class of drugs seems to help the socially anxious person turn down the excessive volume of their inner judgmental thoughts.

If you are shy or socially anxious, should you take a pill to make you more friendly? There are pros and cons to be considered when deciding whether or not to take a drug for social anxiety. The SSRI drugs can cause nervous agitation, insomnia, weight gain, and sexual dysfunction, as well as many other less common side effects.

Some doctors and psychologists are concerned that a normal human trait, shyness, has been declared a medical condition requiring expensive pharmaceutical intervention. Because the SSRI drugs are relatively new, it is not yet known what the long-term effects of this class of drugs may be. Nevertheless, the SSRI drugs are very widely prescribed, particularly in North America, for depression and social anxiety.

The difference in shyness experienced with drug therapy can be quite astounding, but it will likely last only as long as the drug is taken on a regular basis. When the drug is discontinued, the symptoms of shyness will likely reappear. With the proper psychotherapy for shyness, the positive results are likely to be long lasting.

In most locations it is easier to find a doctor who will prescribe SSRI medication to combat shyness than it is to find a counselor trained in the use of therapy effective in treating shyness disorders.

This article is an excerpt from the new downloadable book by Royane Real titled "Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends, and Keeping Friends" available at
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